Your Roadmap to your Teen’s Counseling & Growth journey

WHAT DOES THE COUNSELING PROCESS LOOK LIKE AND HOW DO YOU PREPARE YOUR TEEN FOR THEIR FIRST APPOINTMENT? 

Teenagers are in a constant stage of change and discovery. They are caught between having intense physical and emotional experiences and having limited life experiences to help guide them on how to handle these. Add it that the chaos and disruption of the increasingly virtual world and ever-present pressures of social media and they can become easily overwhelmed and lost. While, unfortunately, still holding onto the mindset that they are smarter than all of the adults in their life.

Counseling is meant to help your teenager gain control over their thoughts, bodies, and emotions. it is meant to help them explore what is and isn’t working for them and help them find new ways in which to interact with the world. It can be helpful to let them know that it is someone who is there to listen to and help them and is not there to take sides or judge/criticize them.

Please Please Please, let your teen know that going to counseling is NOT a punishment, it’s an opportunity for growth and improvement and that this person is going to work to make therapy supportive and meaningful. 

Counseling takes time for teen’s to get comfortable and make gains.

Whether your teen has asked to go to therapy, or they were recommended to go, it takes time to see change. No teenager is alike, so the process will look different for everyone.  Counseling is meant to help gain control over thoughts and emotions.  Together your teen and their therapist will work to address emotions, physical sensations, and thoughts that are causing disruption in their everyday life. They will start meeting with their therapist on a weekly basis, anywhere between 30 to 55 minutes at their comfort level. After they have reached a strong foundation in treatment, the therapist can start decreasing sessions on a bi-weekly basis until all goals are met. 

In the initial treatment process, we encourage them to talk about what successful completion would look like. We would also like to take into consideration what you, as the parent(s), would like to see change? Keep in mind the parent(s) and the teenager(s) may see the change differently, but the therapist will hear both sides and help navigate towards some shared goals.  Some teenagers would like assistance in regulating emotions or learning age-appropriate coping and social skills.  These are often important elements to include in their treatment plan. The therapist will review this treatment plan every three-four months to monitor positive therapeutic progress.  

Preparing yourself as the parent/ guardian for your Teenager’s counseling:

One of the things that is most important during this process is developing your own realistic expectations of what change, and progress may look like. Although teens are undoubtedly very smart and resourceful, they are still growing and learning. With this developmental stage being one of the toughest, it’s important to be patient with the process. We understand as parent(s) it can be difficult to raise a teenager but it’s important to begin teaching independence and developing these skills whenever possible.   

Teen’s have the right to counseling! 

With that being said in the state of PA, any minor who is fourteen years of age or older may consent on his or her own behalf to mental health treatment, and the minor’s parent(s) or legal guardian(s) consent is not necessary. Which means legally therapists are unable to talk about what happens in session without the teens’ consent. However, most therapists will help the teen tell their parents how they are feeling so that it is coming from them and not the therapist as this can damage the therapeutic alliance. Teens are complicated when it comes to trust and opening up. If they know that they can have privacy in the counseling process it makes them much more likely to really address things below the surface. We can discuss general components with you; such as if they are struggling or doing well or if there are any issues to safety but we can’t tell you what they say or how they feel without their ok. We know that this can be difficult to understand, but it is also in place to protect the teen and the family. Please also remember that if your teen ever discloses issues of safety and danger, such as suicidal thoughts or plans, that that overrules confidentiality, and we will always reach out to ensure that they are safe.  

GETTING STARTED WITH THERAPY:

YOUR SESSION-BY-SESSION BREAKDOWN

Prior to Your First Session: 

When you first reach out to Angelus to schedule the appointment, either by phone or from completing our intake request form, you will receive a call from our Client Care team to discuss your needs and goals for therapy with your teen. After that call, you will receive a link to your child’s patient portal where you can complete their opening paperwork and background assessments. This paperwork takes an average of 20-30 minutes to complete. We ask all new clients to try to complete this paperwork within 48 hours (about 2 days) of receiving this link, and to read the information thoroughly (as we know lots of the info is very boring, but it is valuable information about how our practice runs and the ins and outs of your journey at our office). Please keep in mind that we will be unable to schedule an intake appointment until AFTER the forms in your portal are completed. This helps ensure that we can match your teen with the best therapist for them, and this will give the therapist a chance to review your teen’s information and better prepare for the first appointment. This saves valuable time during that first appointment that is better focused on what they need rather than on paperwork details. 

To help build a connection and shared understanding with teens in counseling we will often ask for an email address specific to your adolescent and send them assessments on depression, anxiety or various symptoms. They can complete these in their own patient portal and feel more confident about being honest in their struggles as it can be private between them and their therapist.  

Session 1:

This will be their official “intake” appointment. It is up to the client if they want their parent(s) in the first session, although it is encouraged for at least part of the appointment to help the therapist gain a better understanding of the circumstances leading them to counseling. With most of the opening paperwork out of the way, this initial session will include meeting with the therapist to review in depth what your teen’s needs are. The therapist will then begin to structure the counseling relationship as well as discussing the details of informed consent in counseling. The therapist will explore your teen’s past/current family history, medical/mental health struggles, and current supports or stressors.  

Counseling sessions with teens can be individual or as a family.

At times we can also meet with the whole family together or even the parents separate from the teens individual appointments to explore family patterns and needs that may impact and be impacted by your teenagers needs and behaviors. This will all be based on your needs and the goals developed within our treatment plan.  

Sessions 7+:

After a comfortable foundation has been laid between your teen and their therapist, the process of change can begin to start. The therapist will help them develop coping skills.  This will allow them to start making significant changes in the way they think, act, and respond.  Remember, it is up to the teen to use these skills, the therapist is only there to guide, teach, and support them through this change, not “fix” the problem that led them to counseling. Having that as an expectation will make you and them frustrated and disappointed. There is a lot of “work” involved in the counseling process that happens between appointments. There are skills to learn, communication methods to practice, boundaries to set, and lifelong patterns to change. 

Ending the therapy process:

As the goal of counseling is to “feel better,” there will be an eventual process of deciding when they have reached the best time to close. This is an accomplishment, and it should be celebrated. However, for some, we have found that the idea of closing can be difficult and even lead to regressions. The support your teen gets in counseling is different from other areas of their life, and at times can be difficult to let go of. We will be there to help prepare them for this shift and connect them to natural support. Their last few sessions will focus on reinforcing their gains and developing a follow-up plan for maintaining their growth after the formal treatment process has ended.